This is a tribute to one dude in my group who lost his erection after hours of intense make-out session when the woman confessed that she is still a virgin. It may seem like a weird thing to some people, but there really are men out there who fear the V-card (virginity), or at least feel some amount of pressure when his date tells him to "pop her cherry".
First of all, let's analyze why she chose you to be the first:
- She's comfortable with you; trusts you, even.
- She knows you won't judge her or make fun of her status.
- She knows you will treat her right, will be gentle with her and initiate her tenderly to the art.
- She understands that you may be the one guy who can teach her all she needs to be a sex goddess.
- She knows the first time will be a bit painful,but also that the pleasure you can give will outweigh the pain.
- She wants her first time to be the best; and this means orgasms.
Pressured yet? You shouldn't be, really. A girl's first time could be a big deal to her, whether she admits it or not. However, what you must realize is that her first will be her sexual benchmark, and all her next sexual relationships (if you don't hit it off for the long term) will be compared to how you made her feel during her first time.
She might have heard her friends talk about their first time and how it sucked for them. Like the time when her friend tried to justify why she thought her first time was the best even when she did not really enjoy the sex:
No way. My first time was not lousy at all. Maybe it was not the best, it was a more than a bit painful and my boyfriend did not know the first thing about making me orgasm, but that didn’t matter AT ALL because It was with the right guy, who was loving, caring and very affectionate to me. That more than makes up for the lack of gratification; I still consider myself lucky.
Your girl doesn't buy that. She knows she deserves a good time on her first sex, and that's why she chose you. Now, she's right here in front of you, twiddling her thumb, and asking you very nicely to pop her cherry. What EXACTLY do you do?
Help her relax. Start slow by taking her clothes off piece by piece. This way, you build anticipation without scaring her. Help her relax by kneading her breasts (note that I said 'kneading' not 'grabbing')
Lose the hardcore porn (for now, at least) - She may feel more than a bit pressured when she sees the goddesses of the porn world humping and grunting and getting ass-fucked (and she knows she's not ready for that yet).
Crank up the romance - Through the haze of her pleasure, she wants to feel special. Express your approval of the things she does gently but explicitly. Don't just moan and groan; tell her she's doing a good job licking or sucking you. Better yet, walk her through the process of giving you a blowjob, and tell her she looks awesome while she's going down on you.
Hold your orgasm, but make her cum all she wants - It's all about her for now. Hold off until she's sated and smiling.
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