Why Your Girlfriend Could of Left You.

If your girlfriend has recently dumped you, you’re probably wondering what you said or did to make her leave. If you don’t figure out what happened, you’ll miss your chance to win her back. The first step to fixing your relationship problem is to know what caused the issue to come to the conclusion it came to. Keep this in mind about women:

All women have things they need in a relationship. The same holds true for men. Women want a man to make her happy, feel secure and feel loved. You want to make sure you don’t do anything that jeopardizes her sense of security. There are three things that do just that. It’s imperative that you avoid them if you want your girlfriend to stay with you.

Cheating - When you cheat, you acknowledge that something isn’t right in your relationship. However, instead of dealing with it, you decide that having an affair is the best way to handle it. Don’t do this. If there is a problem within the relationship, talk with her about your concerns. After all, how would you feel if she did it to you? If you cheated on your girlfriend, this could be the deciding factor that drove her away.

Lack of or No Attention - Women love it when their men notice things about them or actually talks and listens to them. You should know that communications with your significant other is imperative. If there is a lack of communications and she notices, she’s likely to feel unsatisfied in the relationship even if everything else is going well. Listen to her when she talks.

Lack of or No Appreciation - Women do a lot more than men tend to give them credit for. Women take their time to look good for their men so appreciate the little things you girlfriend does for you. Be sure you compliment her on her attire or how good on things she has done. Let her know that you do appreciate her doing things for you. If she doesn’t feel like she’s appreciated, she’ll question why she isn’t even trying to be with you.

While most men can figure these three things out on their own, for some, it’s isn’t as clear cut. The second and third items are the basis to making women happy. The first one is just being downright cruel to her. If you love your girlfriend, you should strive to make her happy as much as possible. If not, you may be the one tossed to the side for another guy who can make her happy and sees to her needs.

The above are the 3 possible reasons your girlfriend will not feel happy in a relationship and leave. If you want to win her back, you have to show her that you do care, appreciate and love her. It may take time but it can be done.

How to be a better Girlfriend

Take it slow. Don't cook a three-course meal for the first date. Don't push him to call you his girlfriend after a couple of dates. Don't start talking about marriage and children before you've even met his friends. The beginning is a precious time when you both feel like you're walking on air just because you're together. Eventually this phase will pass and you'll hit bumps in the road that will test your relationship, and during those times, you'll both look back to the memories from the beginning to remember why you're in it. So don't bring up any issues prematurely and make the beginning of your relationship stressful. Let it take its natural course. Cherish your time together--it's the only time this person will be new to you. That doesn't mean you should be an obsessive girlfriend and crave every second of his time. Relax. Be patient. Enjoy.

1. Be honest. While being honest to your mate is very important, to the point of being paramount, it is equally important that you are honest with yourself. If you overreact or make a mistake, can you acknowledge your error and apologize. If you're feeling vulnerable or upset, can you sort through your feelings and verbalize them to him in a non-accusing way.
2. Have a positive attitude. If everything you say around him is a criticism or an attack, he will not look forward to seeing you. However, you don't always have to agree with him just because he is your boyfriend. Tactfulness is a better strategy in mature relationships. No matter what, have a good sense of humor. Have inside jokes together. Be spontaneous. Be happy.
3. Make your desires, needs, and opinions known, even when they may conflict with his. You don't and shouldn't exist solely to please him. Besides, showing that you are your own person with your own needs, desires, and approach to life will keep him interested in getting to know and understand you as a person. Just remember to express yourself in way that doesn't attack anyone else's opinion or lifestyle in any way--you can be humble and outspoken at the same time.
4. Take an interest in his interests. You don't have to act like you love his hobbies, but at least try to understand why he's such a fan.
5. Buy him simple, unexpected gifts for no special reason once in a while. The thought is always appreciated and it makes the guy feel as if you really do care and love him. Some good gift ideas could be a new music CD he's been dying to get, a teddy bear or something else that he'll really like and will be surprised by. Guys like to be surprised with little gifts too.
   
   
   • Make him something. A paper flower, an artsy heart, something creative that reflects your personality, so whenever he looks at it he'll think of you and smile.
6. Let him live his life. If you feel entitled to all of his time and attention, learn how to not be an obsessive girlfriend. Remember that he doesn't need you for everything and that you are separate people as well as a couple. When he needs some space, don't take it personally.

Tips

• As in any healthy relationship, you will have your share of conflicts, some tiny, some big. Remember to be true to yourself, and try to abandon any significant selfishness. A relationship is a matter of teamwork and a symbiotic relationship, not a parasitic one where a party gives and the other one just takes without giving enough back.
• If your boyfriend is acting passive towards you, it doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love you. It most likely means he is shy and has never been in a relationship before and just doesn't know how to act. To solve this problem you can talk to him about acting that way. Perhaps he's expecting you to take more initiative because you have had more experience with relationships than he has
• Avoid having a "one track" relationship in which the bond revolves around one thing. Keep your relationship strong by bringing variety and diversity into the relationship. Try different and new things together. Relationships are about having fun together, learning together and growing together.
• Don't let your friends try to manage your relationship. It's your relationship and no one else's. You don't have to listen to ever piece of advice from your friends if you don't want to.

Warnings

• Don't cheat. Some girls cheat, expecting that it will cause him to pay more attention to her. It doesn't. It always backfires. Always...Not only that, but also, he will most probably tell his friends and then you will lose their respect too.
• Don't conduct "secret tests" on your boyfriend to see what he'll do. It's humiliating, disrespectful and unfair, and you wouldn't want him to do that to you. The same goes for coercing your boyfriend with sex.
• It's fine to share things with your girlfriends when talking about him, but remember to be respectful of him by not sharing things that are embarrassing, confidential or rude. (Don't kiss and tell!) You can keep your girlfriends "updated" on how the relationship is going, but keep them from getting involved in your relationship, unless abuse or other dangerous activities are taking place, in which case tell them everything.
• Jealousy is a very dangerous thing. Don't intentionally make him jealous. That will result with a lot of problems and difficulties within your relationship.
• Try to get along with his friends and family. These are most likely things that mean a lot to him, and him having good opinions about you from people he cares about will mean a lot. Try making friends with his friends, and his siblings. Make sure you're respectful to his parents, and make sure they like you. Try doing little things, like becoming close with his mom or going shopping with his sister.

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