Why Your Girlfriend Could of Left You.

If your girlfriend has recently dumped you, you’re probably wondering what you said or did to make her leave. If you don’t figure out what happened, you’ll miss your chance to win her back. The first step to fixing your relationship problem is to know what caused the issue to come to the conclusion it came to. Keep this in mind about women:

All women have things they need in a relationship. The same holds true for men. Women want a man to make her happy, feel secure and feel loved. You want to make sure you don’t do anything that jeopardizes her sense of security. There are three things that do just that. It’s imperative that you avoid them if you want your girlfriend to stay with you.

Cheating - When you cheat, you acknowledge that something isn’t right in your relationship. However, instead of dealing with it, you decide that having an affair is the best way to handle it. Don’t do this. If there is a problem within the relationship, talk with her about your concerns. After all, how would you feel if she did it to you? If you cheated on your girlfriend, this could be the deciding factor that drove her away.

Lack of or No Attention - Women love it when their men notice things about them or actually talks and listens to them. You should know that communications with your significant other is imperative. If there is a lack of communications and she notices, she’s likely to feel unsatisfied in the relationship even if everything else is going well. Listen to her when she talks.

Lack of or No Appreciation - Women do a lot more than men tend to give them credit for. Women take their time to look good for their men so appreciate the little things you girlfriend does for you. Be sure you compliment her on her attire or how good on things she has done. Let her know that you do appreciate her doing things for you. If she doesn’t feel like she’s appreciated, she’ll question why she isn’t even trying to be with you.

While most men can figure these three things out on their own, for some, it’s isn’t as clear cut. The second and third items are the basis to making women happy. The first one is just being downright cruel to her. If you love your girlfriend, you should strive to make her happy as much as possible. If not, you may be the one tossed to the side for another guy who can make her happy and sees to her needs.

The above are the 3 possible reasons your girlfriend will not feel happy in a relationship and leave. If you want to win her back, you have to show her that you do care, appreciate and love her. It may take time but it can be done.

How to tell if your ex is still intrested

An ex can't generally be rooted out from life entirely. Memory is a minefield and quite many memories are attached to an ex. Warm care, affection and embraces in a past hour comes back to haunt. You wish with so much heart that you are not dead entities in their hearts. If you want to know whether your ex. is still interested in you, here are three ways to find out....

Your ex is partner-less for long- Well! Can there be a surer sign. Certainly, it's not a taboo to join immediately after a split. So if your ex is single long after losing you, it implies that your love burns inside him very strongly. It's important to understand that the pain of separation is only healed by another soul. If your partner is alone and for long, it's because he wants you or no one else.

He fulfils your most coveted wish- this is how an ex might like to show what you still mean to him. It might be anything. For instance, there might have been an art gallery you always wanted him to join and he kept delaying. So if he joins the same gallery now, rest assured he has shown through the act, how much he still feels for you. This method is an immediate source of revelation as it has a psychological ground.

Hitting on you too many times- well! This certainly can't be accidental. There has got to be a base behind it. Once is chance, twice is destiny, but thrice is enemy attack. So if you find him knocking on you accidentally at movies, shops and coffee stops, know for sure that the love that has seasoned your heart is also frying in him.

Things to Talk about with Your Girlfriend

Talking is one of the best ways of getting to know more about someone, and talking to your girlfriend is the best way to forge tight bonds with her. It is very possible that years down the line, the two of you will remember many of the things you will say to each other in these younger days. These fond memories play an integral part in most long-running relationships.

One of the best ways of having a good, healthy and wholesome chat with your girlfriend is to start with small talk. The small talk will give you a general picture about her likes and dislikes, as well as what she would like to discuss and what she would rather leave alone. Once the small talk gives you a general idea, you can go ahead and discuss your common likes and dislikes. A wholesome chat can also end up in a decision to do something you can enjoy together. For example, a chat about the latest movie or play can actually end up in the two of you standing in queue to buy tickets for it.

As you begin to form opinions of your girlfriend during the course of conversation, she in turn does the same. Therefore, you should think carefully before speaking and taking up subjects that might be repugnant to her. Religion and politics, for example, are subjects which often don't gel well with breakfast, lunch or dinner. Unless and until you are open and ready for an active debate, those topics shouldn't be touched with a barge pole. Talking about it, however, gives you an indication of your girlfriend's political and religions leanings.

A chat is one of the best ways to express your love to your girlfriend. But you should never utter the words "I love you" unless you mean it. This is because false love is very easily found out by women. In addition, most girlfriends enjoy hearing it, but don’t make yours hear it all the time or she may begin to find the otherwise-well-meaning utterance tiresome.

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My girlfriend wants sex more often than I do...

Your Question: Dear Experts, My girlfriend wants sex more often than I do. Most people think guys want it more. Is it normal for women to want it more than guys? The Answer: Dear jdsnowmann, Yes, it's normal. Society often expects guys to be more interested in sex than girls, and this can make us feel like there's something wrong with guys who aren't as interested in sex as girls — but there's definitely nothing wrong with girls wanting more sex than boys. People have different levels of sex drive, regardless of whether they're girls or guys. Some people would be happy to have sex every day, and some people would be happy to have sex once a month or even less often. Many things can affect our sex drives. This can include stress, how comfortable we are with our partners, past sexual experiences, if we feel safe, how deeply we are attracted to the person, and many other factors in our lives. Hope this information helps!

How to Talk Dirty

Talking dirty to the one you love (or even just the one you’re with) is one of those sexual behaviors people are uncomfortable with the first time they do it, and the first time they do it with a new partner. To do it well means letting loose and exposing yourself, which always feels scary the first time. Here are some steps to getting comfortable with dirty talk, and ideas for introducing into your sex play.
Difficulty: N/A
Time Required: Learning to talk dirty is a labor of love, it takes time!

Here's How:

1. Be authentic in your dirty talk.
   Dirty talk can feel silly if you expect it to be what you’ve seen in the movies. You might have this idea that dirty talk is something specific. But good dirty talk is completely what you make it, and to do it well, you have to be yourself. While you may take on a role in your dirty talk (e.g. the ravished submissive) you need to find something of yourself in the role. Make a list of different aspects of your personality you can draw on for inspiration.
2. Find your dirty talk voice.
   You need to find your own way of talking dirty. Your dirty talk might be low rhythmic grunts, high pitched squeals, or precise whispers. It might reflect the way you talk in your daily life, or it might express a different aspect of your personality. You don’t need to pick only one voice, the element of surprise can add an extra sense of anticipation, when your partner doesn’t know what they’re going to get an earful of next!
3. Expand your dirty talk vocabulary.
   Most of us are raised not to swear. Dirty talk is your opportunity to pull out all the stops on the foul mouth express. Unless you’re role playing calls for it, avoid clinical terms (like penis). If you’re at a loss, do some research. Both of the books recommended below have lists of words. But you can do research online, by reading some raunchy erotica, or in some cases watching porn (although the dirty talk in porn tends to be unimaginative).
4. Practice dirty talk when you're alone.
   Carol Queen, author of the highly recommended Exhibitionism for the Shy , suggests starting on your own, talking dirty while you masturbate. Fantasize about having sex with your partner and talking dirty to them. You can start by doing it in your head, but eventually do it out loud.
5. Establish ground rules with your partner.
   One of the reasons many of us don’t talk dirty is fear of sounding ridiculous, or being put down or rejected by a partner. It’s important to set some rules when you’re willing to take risks like this. Rules like no laughing at one another, and no judgment are important. In the heat of the moment anything can come out of your mouth, and you need to know that your partner is respectful of the ways that can be exposing.
6. Start slow the first time.
   Don’t feel you have to rush right into elaborate verbal gymnastics. A great way to start with dirty talk is to describe out loud what is happening during sex. Things like “I love the way your hand feels in my….” Or “Your …feels so good on/in my…” Describe what’s happening and how it feels in your body. You can also experiment by telling your partner something you’re going to do to them, or something you want them to do to you.
7. Experiment with your voice.
   Most of us take for granted all the different things we can do with our voice, and the impact these changes have. Experiment with speed, how fast you talk. Some things call for a staccato barrage, while some things are best said slowly. Change the volume of your voice, try whispering, try screaming, try everything in the middle. Also play with the tenor of your voice. You can sound commanding and harsh, trembling and uncertain, and everywhere in between.
8. Make dirty talking a two way conversation.
   Once you’ve taken the risk and initiated talking dirty with your partner, ask them to do the same. It isn’t for everyone, and you might find that you like doing it more than hearing it (or vice versa). But being on the receiving and the giving end of dirty talk can give you a different perspective on it, plus you may learn a few things from your partner you didn’t already know.

Thanks to About.com

The Top 10 Tips for First Dates

Here is a list for the boys. There is a saying that “you never get a second chance to make a good first impression.” With that in mind, it is vital to be fully prepared to make a great impression on each date you go on. Here are 10 tips for men on dating success and making an impression that will last.

1. Pay

Pay for everything. Don’t mention splitting the bill. If the lady suggests paying part of the bill do not accept the offer. If she insists, allow her to pay what she wishes (this is not just a rule for dating). You will be the best judge at the time whether your date is only insisting because she feels obliged.

2. Location

No movies on the first date. How can you get to know each other if you spend the majority of the time in silence? I would recommend taking your date out for dinner (no lunch dates on the first date either). Take her somewhere you feel comfortable and somewhere you can easily afford. You don’t want to be nervous all through the date that you might get stuck with a crippling bill. If price is a big concern for you, you can organize your own date in a public place (like a park or even at your own home) and prepare the meal yourself. If you can’t cook, takeaways are fine, but serve it on plates at the table and try to make an effort.

I would also suggest that you not go too overboard with the first date. Keep it simple and moderately priced. You can get extravagent on subsequent dates if things go well.

3. Manners

First off, if you are going to dinner, read the Rules for Fine Dining list; try to remember at least one or two. When you pick up your date, get out of the car and hold the door open for her. Do the same when you are letting her out of the car. If you are dining out for your first date, hold the chair out for your date and help her sit.

Don’t be late.

4. Respect

That means not to expect anything in return! A date is not payment for future pleasures, it is a way to get to know someone to gauge compatibility. This rule also means you should not try to get your date drunk, drugged, or compromised in any other way. At the end of the date you can offer a small kiss - offer nothing else and expecting nothing back.

5. Confidence

Be confident and take charge of the evening. This does not mean you should drag your date around by the arm; be firm with your suggestions and be confident that you will have a good date and make a good impression - remember, if you were a total loser you wouldn’t be on the date in the first place.

6. Grooming

Dress appropriately for your date, and you should probably let your date know where you are planning to take her in advance so she can also dress appropriately. If you are going to the beach for a seaside dinner, dress nicely (no jeans) but don’t overdress. Similarly, if you are going to a fancy restaurant, wear a shirt and tie. Make sure your shoes are clean and polished if necessary.

Shower. Shampoo. Shave. If you have cologne, wear a little but not too much.

7. Conversation

Do not focus on yourself during the evening - ask your date questions about herself (this works in all social situations). Listen to the replies too and don’t just look for an opening to start discussing yourself. Do not talk about your job for more than a few minutes - while our own work is a fascinating subject for us, it is seldom fascinating for someone else. Be sure to compliment your date - but don’t go overboard - you will seem desperate.

Do not ever talk about dates you have had with other people or your ex-girlfriends.

8. Timing

Don’t let your date last too long. Think of it like a good meal - you should finish your plate feeling like you want just a little more. This is the best time to finish a date. This also means that you should not plan for the date to be too far from home otherwise the travel can ruin things.

9. Gifts

It can be a very nice idea to give your date a small gift on the first date. Don’t go crazy on something expensive - just a nice little token like a single rose is fine. Keep in mind where you are going and how you plan to get there so your date does not end up being lumbered with something that she has to carry around all night. Oh - and don’t pick the rose from your dates garden - buy one.

10. Conclusion

If you enjoyed your time with your date and would like to see her again, call her and tell her so. Don’t wait too long (and definitely don’t play hard to get). Be completely honest. Having said that, if you had an awful time, you should still be honest (though not brutal). There is no point in leading someone on - it will end up badly for both of you.

Thanks to ListVerse.com

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