How to Talk Dirty

Talking dirty to the one you love (or even just the one you’re with) is one of those sexual behaviors people are uncomfortable with the first time they do it, and the first time they do it with a new partner. To do it well means letting loose and exposing yourself, which always feels scary the first time. Here are some steps to getting comfortable with dirty talk, and ideas for introducing into your sex play.
Difficulty: N/A
Time Required: Learning to talk dirty is a labor of love, it takes time!

Here's How:

1. Be authentic in your dirty talk.
   Dirty talk can feel silly if you expect it to be what you’ve seen in the movies. You might have this idea that dirty talk is something specific. But good dirty talk is completely what you make it, and to do it well, you have to be yourself. While you may take on a role in your dirty talk (e.g. the ravished submissive) you need to find something of yourself in the role. Make a list of different aspects of your personality you can draw on for inspiration.
2. Find your dirty talk voice.
   You need to find your own way of talking dirty. Your dirty talk might be low rhythmic grunts, high pitched squeals, or precise whispers. It might reflect the way you talk in your daily life, or it might express a different aspect of your personality. You don’t need to pick only one voice, the element of surprise can add an extra sense of anticipation, when your partner doesn’t know what they’re going to get an earful of next!
3. Expand your dirty talk vocabulary.
   Most of us are raised not to swear. Dirty talk is your opportunity to pull out all the stops on the foul mouth express. Unless you’re role playing calls for it, avoid clinical terms (like penis). If you’re at a loss, do some research. Both of the books recommended below have lists of words. But you can do research online, by reading some raunchy erotica, or in some cases watching porn (although the dirty talk in porn tends to be unimaginative).
4. Practice dirty talk when you're alone.
   Carol Queen, author of the highly recommended Exhibitionism for the Shy , suggests starting on your own, talking dirty while you masturbate. Fantasize about having sex with your partner and talking dirty to them. You can start by doing it in your head, but eventually do it out loud.
5. Establish ground rules with your partner.
   One of the reasons many of us don’t talk dirty is fear of sounding ridiculous, or being put down or rejected by a partner. It’s important to set some rules when you’re willing to take risks like this. Rules like no laughing at one another, and no judgment are important. In the heat of the moment anything can come out of your mouth, and you need to know that your partner is respectful of the ways that can be exposing.
6. Start slow the first time.
   Don’t feel you have to rush right into elaborate verbal gymnastics. A great way to start with dirty talk is to describe out loud what is happening during sex. Things like “I love the way your hand feels in my….” Or “Your …feels so good on/in my…” Describe what’s happening and how it feels in your body. You can also experiment by telling your partner something you’re going to do to them, or something you want them to do to you.
7. Experiment with your voice.
   Most of us take for granted all the different things we can do with our voice, and the impact these changes have. Experiment with speed, how fast you talk. Some things call for a staccato barrage, while some things are best said slowly. Change the volume of your voice, try whispering, try screaming, try everything in the middle. Also play with the tenor of your voice. You can sound commanding and harsh, trembling and uncertain, and everywhere in between.
8. Make dirty talking a two way conversation.
   Once you’ve taken the risk and initiated talking dirty with your partner, ask them to do the same. It isn’t for everyone, and you might find that you like doing it more than hearing it (or vice versa). But being on the receiving and the giving end of dirty talk can give you a different perspective on it, plus you may learn a few things from your partner you didn’t already know.

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How to be a good Boyfriend

1. Be honest. In a mature relationship, honesty is the best policy. It may be difficult, but the truth will allow relationships to breathe. No matter what happens, no one can ever challenge the fact that you are truthful, which might mean that the other person also gives you the same respect. If something doesn't suit them let them know, otherwise they will not trust your opinion. But make it sound like a compliment. Suggest an alternative, and attach praise to the alternative. For example, if they ask you if you like something they are trying on (trying on, not already wearing at a party!) let them know that it might work, but you think the blue one is your favourite so far because it shows off their great (insert a feature you appreciate, preferably not one that they are self-conscious about). It's not going to be easy to be honest and kind at the same time, so focus on learning how to give a feedback sandwich and you'll both be better off.
2. Don't brush them off. People often find it exasperating when they get the feeling their partner treats them as an inferior in a relationship. Women are no exception. A lot of people have been taught that the only way to get attention when their partner is trying to ignore them is to act more emotional and be louder until the partner finally surrenders and pays attention to her, even if in annoyance. If people feel they're being given the cold treatment by people who are supposed to be important to them, they get worried. Especially when it happens without you giving an explanation for why this disturbance has occurred. People aren't mind readers. Your mate is not likely to be able to guess that you're cranky just because they wouldn't let you do something that they felt was very trivial, whereas you found it important. If you know that your mood might lead you to overreact, simply say "I'm feeling really irritated right now. Can we talk about this later after I cool off a bit?" (Don't forget to follow through and actually give her your time later.)
3. Communicate. Do not talk their ear off, however make sure that if you have any problems that will affect your mood, they are made aware of the reasons for your problems and mood, so that you do not appear to merely be a fickle and cranky creature. Zone out everything around you when you're talking to them. If you ask them a question, ask them because you really want to know. For example, ask them what type of movies they enjoy, or about one of her favourites. If you know it, talk about it a little bit in an honest way, what you thought of it, and make a guess at why they might have liked it. Even if you are wrong, your mate will usually love the fact that you are interested enough to try. Remember, the opposite of talking is not waiting, it's listening. Make sure you're actually listening, not just waiting for your turn to talk. Put off a vibe that tells them that they can tell you anything. Make them feel safe.
4. Make physical contact. Girls have much thinner skin than guys, so even a light touch is appreciated. If your girl is a romantic, upon seeing her for the first time in a couple of days, say, "I missed you so much..." and weave your ams around her hips then give her a loving hug. Don't make it last too long! A hug in public can last anywhere from 5 seconds, to a minute or two. If you have been together with your girlfriend for longer, and have kissed before, feel free to also give light kissed on her lips /cheeks / forehead/neck just to show that you really appreciate her presence. Make sure to do it in private...unless you're both ok with PDA!
5. Give gifts as a surprise. Anyone can buy a gift for a birthday, Christmas or an anniversary. Listen to them when you are out window shopping, and if there is something they like, and it's within your price range, remember it and surprise them with it when they least expect it, for no reason at all. Or pick something up on your way home from work, and tell them you were thinking of them when you saw it. It doesn't have to be big or expensive--a book you know they will like, or a CD of their favourite band are nice gestures.
6. Mix things up. Go to a new restaurant, try a new nightclub or go to a new part of town. Even if you both end up hating it, it's an experience you can share and that's what it's all about isn't it? Creating memories together. Surprise them by doing something offbeat--think less maudlin and more personal. This includes anything from racing them to your walking destination, dancing without music, or even bringing them a tub of LEGO and encouraging their immediate use. You two should grow to be comfortable with each other, and do things together without self-consciousness. Ideally, they should never feel stupid around you for wanting or doing a particular thing. Step out of your comfort zone. Sometimes, in order to get things going, you need to be the one to step out of the comfort zone.
7. Compliment them sincerely. Find something particular and compliment them on it, but mean it. Don't just say, "You look nice". Say "That really makes your eyes flash", "Your hair cut really suits the shape of your face" or "That makes me want to kiss your neck" ...and then kiss their neck! The more specific you are, the more unique and appreciative the compliment.
8. Let your partner be. Just because she is your significant other, doesn't mean she is yours, implying any kind of ownership. You can't keep this person all to yourself. You might get jealous if they talk to someone else, but if you trust them and are good to them, you shouldn't have anything to worry about. If their actions do make you feel uncomfortable, sit down and talk, again using nonviolent communication. Same goes for how they dress and look. They may not always feel like spending an hour plucking, tweezing, clipping this, applying that. Make sure they know they can relax and be themselves with you. Don't make them feel like they always have to look like a celestial being. If they're letting themselves go, so to speak, bring it up in a gentle and helpful way, like "What ever happened to your red lipstick? You have gorgeous lips, and I love it when you highlight them once in a while. It looks amazing."
9. Take care of yourself. Don't be needy or dependent. Nothing scares someone away faster than someone they constantly need to remind to do laundry, take a shower, or get to work on time. Be hygienic and neat, set goals, and work hard. You can't be a good boyfriend if you're not a good person.
10. Be your self, don't try to be somebody you're not because at the end of the day, if they love you they will love you for who you are.

Tips

• Keep in mind: the road will be difficult. As in any healthy relationship, you will have your share of conflicts, some tiny, some big. Remember to be true to yourself, and try to abandon any significant selfishness. A relationship is a matter of team work.
• Treat them like you normally do around your friends or else they will feel like you're embarrassed to date her.
• If she doesn't want to talk about something right away then just drop the subject. She will tell you when she is ready.

Warnings

• If your partner sees you doing something that can be easily misinterpreted in a bad way, don't say "this isn't what you think" or "this isn't what it looks like". Hold her hand (they will pull away) then look them in the eye and tell them you love them, and that they are the only one for you, and it really wasn't what it looked like, then explain.
• Never cheat. Realize where your heart is and stick to that. One time will be enough to convince someone to dump you.
• Never hold their family's actions against them. No one can help what their family does or says. You can share with them that it bothers you what someone might have done or said but leave it alone after that.
• Never tell them about something you almost did for them and then ended up not doing for whatever reason. Like saying 'I thought about getting you this gift, but changed my mind' or 'I was going to take the day off work to spend it with you and then decided it was a bad idea'. They will not think you were thoughtful, they will think you decided they weren't worth it. This is worse than an oblivious boyfriend, because it shows you know how to be romantic and what to do, but don't find them valuable enough. These thoughts are definitely best kept to yourself.
• Don't embarrass them. Most people get embarrassed if you talk about undergarments and things like that. Remember, those sorts of things may be attractive to you, but to them they may be something they don't want to talk about. On the same idea, never tell a funny story about them without her consent, especially if they try to stop you, DO NOT CONTINUE. This will hurt their feelings, as it shows impressing your friends and making them laugh is more important to you than them not having to feel stupid.
• Don't be too clingy. She wants her personal space just as much as you do. If she wants to hang out with her friends, or do something other than hanging out with you, let her.

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Be a better Girlfriend Tips

• The Top 10 Dating Tips for men and women.

• How to be a better Girlfriend.
  

Autofellatio with a Pipe

Step 1: Lube up some PVC pipe

Note, this could be dangerous, proceed with caution: Take a piece of pvc pipe insulation and cut it the right length to fit your dick. It should be tight so no air will leak out.

Step 2: Pump and suck

Start pumping your dick and suck on pipe at the same time until you're really to cum. Or keep going, if you'd like a taste.

Make a Pocket Pussy with a Toilet Roll

Step 1: Put a condom in a toilet paper tube

Take one toilet paper (or paper towel) tube, one condom, and some lube. Put the condom inside the roll and stretch the opening of the condom across the opening of the tube. Fold the end of the condom over the end of the tube and hold with one hand.

Step 2: Pull the end for extra pleasure

Lube well and go at it like hell. BONUS: Pull on the tip of the condom while you jack and it feels like a blowjob.

How to make love to a Virgin

This is a tribute to one dude in my group who lost his erection after hours of intense make-out session when the woman confessed that she is still a virgin. It may seem like a weird thing to some people, but there really are men out there who fear the V-card (virginity), or at least feel some amount of pressure when his date tells him to "pop her cherry".

First of all, let's analyze why she chose you to be the first:

• She's comfortable with you; trusts you, even.
• She knows you won't judge her or make fun of her status.
• She knows you will treat her right, will be gentle with her and initiate her tenderly to the art.
• She understands that you may be the one guy who can teach her all she needs to be a sex goddess.
• She knows the first time will be a bit painful,but also that the pleasure you can give will outweigh the pain.
• She wants her first time to be the best; and this means orgasms.

Pressured yet? You shouldn't be, really. A girl's first time could be a big deal to her, whether she admits it or not. However, what you must realize is that her first will be her sexual benchmark, and all her next sexual relationships (if you don't hit it off for the long term) will be compared to how you made her feel during her first time.

She might have heard her friends talk about their first time and how it sucked for them. Like the time when her friend tried to justify why she thought her first time was the best even when she did not really enjoy the sex:

No way. My first time was not lousy at all. Maybe it was not the best, it was a more than a bit painful and my boyfriend did not know the first thing about making me orgasm, but that didn’t matter AT ALL because It was with the right guy, who was loving, caring and very affectionate to me. That more than makes up for the lack of gratification; I still consider myself lucky.

Your girl doesn't buy that. She knows she deserves a good time on her first sex, and that's why she chose you. Now, she's right here in front of you, twiddling her thumb, and asking you very nicely to pop her cherry. What EXACTLY do you do?

Help her relax. Start slow by taking her clothes off piece by piece. This way, you build anticipation without scaring her. Help her relax by kneading her breasts (note that I said 'kneading' not 'grabbing')

Lose the hardcore porn (for now, at least) - She may feel more than a bit pressured when she sees the goddesses of the porn world humping and grunting and getting ass-fucked (and she knows she's not ready for that yet).

Crank up the romance - Through the haze of her pleasure, she wants to feel special. Express your approval of the things she does gently but explicitly. Don't just moan and groan; tell her she's doing a good job licking or sucking you. Better yet, walk her through the process of giving you a blowjob, and tell her she looks awesome while she's going down on you.

Hold your orgasm, but make her cum all she wants - It's all about her for now. Hold off until she's sated and smiling.

How to Get Laid (Tonight)

Funny but true video tutorial

Difficulty: Moderate

Things You’ll Need:

• Confidence
• Charisma
• Social Skills
• Experience

Step1

In order to get laid, you first need to asses how you stack up on the approaching ladder. Take the quiz at the bottom to find out... Then, get mentally prepared by cleansing yourself of any excuses you might have. Typically, these include "only rich guys get laid", "you're either born with it or not" and "you need to look like a fitness model to get laid". In order to do this, just do a little study. Walk down the street, and notice the couples with the hottest girls, and then look at the kind of guys they are with (not exactly Brad Pitt, right?). Proceed by looking at the boyfriends of the most attractive female friends and acquaintances that you have. How many of them are average or below average financially? Write it down. *You do not have any attractive female friends and acquaintances? That's fine. Most normal men don't, but most men who get laid do. You actually need to invest effort into building a huge circle of female friends. Solution: Join all the social clubs and organizations that you can and start getting a cool, social life with plenty of female friends.

Step2

Now that you are mentally ready to get laid - Go to a social gathering and start "working the room". This simply means talk to and acquainting yourself with everyone there. Be charming, funny and respectful and people will love you! Just keep moving from one group to another. *Note, in other to be successful at this, you must genuinely forget about trying to get laid. You need to approach women (and everyone really) with the genuine want and only the desire to socialize and get to know people. Ironically enough, wanting and behaving like you want to get laid will repel women off of you, which at the end of the night means - *you don't get laid!"

Step3

As the night progresses and you have befriended most of the people (and women) in the place... (*without* trying to get laid, but only socializing) some of the women you had talked to to will start becoming more flirtatious and perhaps even "touchy-feely with you". These are the women that are looking to get laid.

Step4

Of the ones who have displayed this increased interest and signs that they want to get laid - pick the one you like best, and then invent an excuse for the two of you to move to a more intimate space. If this is a party it can be something like "Woah, it's so loud in here, let's continue this conversation over here" [as you take her and lead her by the hand to an empty -get laid- room] If this is in a club or some other environment, it's usually something like: "let me show you my [whatever you were talking about]", and lead her to your apartment". The rest is automatic. She'll do the rest.

Tips & Warnings

• None of this will work to get you laid unless you have mastered basic approaching and social skills. This means, you are the kind of person who can approach any person, any where and have 90% of them smiling and laughing... which is a skill made up of the skills: approaching, public speaking, humor, working a room, confidence and charisma.
• Each one of these skills is a learn-able skill in much the same way that you can learn how to play the guitar or speak a foreign language. In much the same way there are books, courses, organizations and groups that can teach you each of these separate skills. The get laid skill is simply a larger skill made up of these smaller ones
• Contrary to what charlatans out there might want to sell you... you cannot make a woman want to get laid with you. As a man, you can only identify the women who have gone out with an intent (or at least the willingness) to get laid... and then provide them the opportunity to do so. Any attempt to cajole or make a woman want to have sex with you is considered sexual harassment
• When we say giving her an "excuse" for moving to a more intimate place, we assume a 2-sided excuse. This means that both you and her know that it is only a socially sanctioned excuse for moving to a more private spot so you can get laid. When you say "It's loud here, let's go over here to continue", it must be clear to her that this is only an excuse. If you actually give the woman a false reason to moving somewhere else with an intent to trick her, then that is non-ethical. Be sure to make the difference and get laid ethnically.

Sex Positions that Women Love

Sexual Positions Women Enjoy

Women love sex. In fact, some women think about it just as often, if not more, then their male counterparts. They fantasize constantly and at great length (with you being the object of their desire, of course). These hot little fantasies can cover a broad spectrum of kink, but almost always involve one of the five most common sex positions women enjoy. This is due to a number of reasons, the most significant being that they create a perfect balance between level of difficulty and maximum pleasure. In other words, these sex positions women enjoy result in loads of pleasure for the minimal level of effort required to pull them off. That’s not to say that women don’t love your faves as well; they’re definitely into sexual acrobatics every now and then -- but when we’re getting down and dirty, certain sex positions tend to get women more wet than others.

Private lap dance

Most women love being on top for one simple reason: It makes them feel like they're in charge, and power is always a heady aphrodisiac. Being on top is not limited to one style, however. If you’re old-school, lie on your back and have her straddle your waist before lowering herself onto you; don’t forget to lend her some support by holding her hips while she rides you. If your woman doesn’t enjoy this style, it’s likely for one of two reasons: She may feel overexposed during the act, or her legs might be a bit too short to pull it off comfortably. The easy fix for this dilemma? Move to the sofa. Sit yourself down, lean back and pull her astride you. This is definitely one of the sex positions women enjoy because it allows her to brace herself against the back of the couch, giving her excellent leverage to ride you to orgasm. She can even brace herself with one hand, leaving the other free to play with her clit.

Sex position savvy: It may be tempting to just sit back and enjoy the scenery, but if you’d like to really rock her world, tease her breasts and nipples with your tongue and trace the curve of her waist with your fingers; these moves will magnify her pleasure.

The comfort zone

More commonly known as the missionary position, the comfort zone is not to be overlooked. Nor should any man ignore its tremendous potential for scorching hot sex. Yes, it can also make for predictable, boring sex a Puritan would admire, but only if you’re lacking passion and creativity. The comfort zone is one of the top sex positions women enjoy, and for good reason: the permutations for pleasure are virtually endless, and none of them involve discomfort or the skills of a gymnast. Take charge: Lay her down on the bed, spread her legs apart by sliding your knee between her thighs, place her wrists above her head and show her what you’re made of. Women love displays of dominance in the bedroom, and this one can be either subtle or overt, making it suitable for nearly every woman out there.

Sex position savvy: Take it to the next level by talking dirty to her. Bring your lips close to her ear and whisper what you’re going to do to her; let her know she’ll be screaming your name before it’s over.

You'll definitely want to try these sexual positions women love.

Stand at erection

This sexual position women enjoy is pretty self-evident in the title: Your woman is going to sit on a surface that stands level with your waist, and then you’re going to penetrate her as deeply as you possibly can. The further her legs are spread apart the better, and you can maximize this by drawing her legs around your waist. This will place her vagina directly against your groin, and will make deep thrusting incredibly easy for you, thereby increasing her odds of having a G-spot orgasm. Where can you put this sexual position women enjoy to good use? Try the kitchen counter, the bathroom counter, the washing machine, the piano, the hood of your car -- get as naughty as you like.

Sex position savvy: Some men come relatively quickly in this position, thanks to it’s deep-thrusting potential. Don’t be afraid to slow down and take a break to get yourself back under control. Use that time to stimulate her clitoris and bring her closer to the edge. When you start thrusting again, she’ll be just as ready as you are.

Spooning it

The spoon position makes for fabulous sex, and it’s really no wonder that it's on this list of sexual positions women enjoy. A woman loves the feel of a man’s chest against her back, she loves the feel of your arms wrapped around her and she loves the feel of being penetrated from behind. She especially enjoys it in the spoon position, because it’s incredibly comfortable and still allows you to play with her breasts and clitoris, which, frankly, most women can never get enough of.

Slide behind your woman, pull her bottom backward against your groin, and slip her top leg over your hip, drawing it slightly backward as you do so. Having her thighs spread apart like this will make her feel deliciously naughty and she’ll probably arch her body to give you even further access. This is a very comfortable sexual position women enjoy, and you can expect a great deal of moaning to ensue.

Sex position savvy: Take advantage of this position by reaching around and stimulating her clitoris, and don’t forget to talk dirty to her as you do; this is one of the best positions for pillow talk.

Stoop doggy dog

You may be surprised to see doggy style making the list, but it really is one of the sexual positions women enjoy. That said, the doggy style you see in the average porn flick isn’t really what we’re talking about here -- we’re after something a bit more intimate and far more pleasurable. Yes, women do like being bent forward on all fours and taken from behind, but they like it even more when you bend forward as well, sliding your fingers between her thighs and toying with her clit. And women simply love it when you switch things up by pulling them into a kneeling position while you continue to thrust deeply. Women definitely enjoy doggy style, as long as they aren’t made to feel like objects.

Sex position savvy: While bending forward, gently nip your woman’s shoulders with your teeth; this area is very sensitive and most women enjoy being bitten there, as it greatly intensifies the sexual pleasure.

state your position please

As mentioned previously, women love sex just as much as you do, and they’re particularly fond of it when it involves any of these woman-pleasing sexual positions. While some women may not love each position on this list, rest assured that most do, and they’re happy to experiment for the sake of keeping things fresh and exciting. Women love those kinky positions, too, but sometimes a girl just wants a man to penetrate her in a style she knows she’ll be able to orgasm from. Try one of these sexual positions women enjoy and she probably will.

Mens Top 10 Fantasies

What Men Daydream About:

Ladies, you can have a better relationship with you man, your significant other, and the way to do it is easy and fun. All you have to do is understand how your man thinks. I don't mean his decision making processes, I mean his fantasies, and his desires. Men mostly live their sexual lives within their own heads and any woman who can find a way in will have cartblanche with her mans sexual moods. In this article, I will let you in on a secret. What secret you may ask? Well, being a man, I happen to know a few things about men. How we think and what we really want. I'm willing to impart this information to you but you must use you new knowledge fairly, as you may want to abuse your new control over your mate to serve evil purpose. By evil purposes, I mean shopping. Study the top ten fantasies of men below and then go to work, literally, and remember play fair, and have fun. WARNING!! Some of these fantasies are for the strong of heart as others are specifically for the wild.

Also, be safe, use protection such as condoms and other sexual paraphanalia.

Fantasy # 10
Sex with another man.

Whether they admit it or not, many men want to be involved with other men. This doesn't always include sex but it is always sexual in nature. If your man has this fantasy don't be alarmed, it doesn't necessarily mean that he is gay. He may just want to experiment or want you to experiment with him.

Tip: this is a touchy subject for men, be mindful of what type of relationship you are in and what type of man you have. And furthermore, NEVER put your man down or slander him for admitting the truth to you.

Fantasy # 9
Sexual Ravaging.

Men are men, and as such we want to be in control. Many men daydream and fantasize about having complete sexual control of a woman, just short of rape, but not much. This can also work in reverse. Ravage your man and make him submit, we men sometimes like to give up control and be submissive, sometimes. Different outfits, such as leather chaps, can help get you in the mood for this fantasy.

Fantasy # 8
Bondage.

Bondage can work by itself but works best with fantasy # 9. Let your man tie you up or down according to your preferences. Make sure that your man is trustworthy because you will be totally under his control. Men want to tie you up for real, whereas they only want to be tied up so they can easily ge

t loose. Invest in silk ribbons, handcuffs, and other such devices for this purpose.

Fantasy # 7
Anal Sex.

I'm sorry to say this ladies but men are sick puppies. We not only like to be in control, we also like to degrade to a degree. The ultimate degradation is anal sex. If you don't have a problem with this, then oil the hinges on that back door and let your man go to work. He will love you so much the better for it. Some men swear that they don't like this form of intercourse. If your man is one of those, let him be. Most likely he is afraid of the beast inside himself. Be sure to stock up on plenty of KY-Jelly, anal stimulators.

Tip: Men, make sure that your woman is completely relaxed, and totally trusts you before you even attempt this. She has to know that you will not hurt her.

Fantasy # 6
Masturbation.

Who doesn't like masturbation? I would wager that not too many people would turn down an offer to be masturbated by their partner, men especially. Offer to touch you man where it counts and rest assured, if you get him in the mood he will reciprocate. Regular petroleum jelly works wonders in this area.

Fantasy # 5
Voyeurism and Exhibitionism.

There is the freak in every man. This is a good thing for you, ladies. Allow your man to live out his "Peeping Tom" fantasies without the stigmatism of being thought of as a pervert. Expressively show your affection when he least expects it, making sure you have an audience. If he is a sexually mentally healthy male, he will blush but he will enjoy it too. My personal kit includes, a pair of binoculars, a digital camera, and a construction outfit, for home use only. Do not violate anyone's privacy who hasn't given consent.

Fantasy # 4
Sex with more than one woman.

How many of you didn't know that this one was coming? Even though your man may be dedicated to only you, he may still fantasize about other women. Here is the catch, he wants the other women to be with the both of you. If you think your relationship can stand up to it and you have someone you can trust, why not give it a try.

Tip: Ladies this is something made specifically for the strong of heart unless you are not committed to your partner of choice.

If you do not believe that both of you will enjoy an act such as this, than you should not do it. If your man persist with fantasy while you decline, someone may want to seek counseling to help them over the hump.

Fantasy # 3
Oral Sex.

Put your money where your mouth is. It is a sure bet that your man will love oral sex, either on him or him on you. Either way, everyone wins. But don't stop there, this is only the "opening", to "bigger" and better things. Think, lip gloss, ice, and whatever you can find around the house to make the oral experience more lip smacking good.
Tip: Women, just before performing oral sex on your man, you should try gargling with a minty mouth wash, spit but don't rinse.

Fantasy # 2
Having sex with a past partner.Don't be offended if your partner tells you that he sometimes has fantasies about his past partners. This can work to your benefit. By play acting, or role playing, you can be those past loves for him, in way, without worrying about him actually being with them.

Some women will not agree with this, and some women will. Remember, do what fits you and your partner. Only do what the both of you will be comfortable with. This is only a suggestion, come up with some ideas of your own. If you want an honest relationship, you should find a way to deal with this. It is after all a top fantasy of most men.

Fantasy # 1
Fantasies about current partner.

Surprise, surprise. You didn't think that you would be in the list? Your man loves you or at the least desires you a lot. Why wouldn't he have fantasies about you. Believe me, your man thinks plenty about you, what he has done with you and what he wants to do with and to you in the future. The future could be the next second, just go through this list with him and try as many of these fantasies as you are both comfortable with.

These fantasies are not all inclusive of men and the suggestions in this article are just that, suggestions and nothing more. Enjoy the adventure!


Thanks to AssociatedContent.com for this post.

Top 10 Tips for Fantistic Sex

Without going into too much detail, let me just say that these tips are tested and proven. Create incredible intimacy, passion and pleasure.

1. Affirm that you are in a committed relationship.

Anybody can have sex. To have great sex, there needs to be an understanding that the relationship is monogamous, strong and in good health. In order to attain the type of intimacy that great sex requires, trust and security are essential.

2. Communicate your likes and dislikes in a loving and considerate manner.

Understand that personal enjoyment is key to healthy sex. Each partner wants to know that they are pleasing the other. In order to keep this level of healthy enjoyment, you must communicate how much you like or dislike a particular action or activity.

3. Stay physically fit.

The studies are in! People who workout on a regular basis have better sex. Exercise increases flexibility, stamina, and strength, all of which contribute to vital, sustained pleasure. You will be amazed how much better it can be when your abs are firm.

4. Make the extra effort to do the little things which remind your partner that they are special.

Does your partner like you to dress a particular way or in a particular color? What does it hurt to give them what they want? Just make sure that the generosity is reciprocated. Often women will give and give hoping to someday get the same consideration in return. When they don't, they withdraw from their partner in resentment. Ask for what you want and make sure that there is a mutual exchange of generous behavior.

5. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed.

This is it. No matter what your history, take responsibility for what you like and enjoy and don't be embarrassed. If you are openly communicating with your partner in a committed relationship, the shame will go away. If you are concerned about how your partner may react to a fantasy you have, first discuss how your partner feels about fantasies in general. You can introduce things slowly, as you feel safe.

6. Come into the relationship as equals and maintain that healthy status.

If you don't have equality in the relationship, it will not work. This doesn't mean that you can't play dominance-submission roles under certain conditions, but those conditions must have a line of demarcation that is understood by both partners. Without mutual respect and equality, the selves in the relationship cannot be affirmed and the relationship will corrode.

7. Practice good grooming.

Do this anyway, but especially in consideration of your intimate partner.

8. Completely receive your partner. Allow them to give to you.

This is harder for most people than first reading would indicate. Many people can happily give to their partner, but have a hard time allowing someone to give to them. Learn to receive the pleasure being offered to you.

9. Enjoy yourself.

Sexual intimacy should be one of the greatest pleasures of being human. Understand that it is meant to be enjoyed and then enjoy it! No one wants to be with a partner who is merely going through the motions. Enjoy it, or don't do it.

10. Talk about it afterwards.

In as much detail as you can manage, talk about what you did. Discuss what you liked, why you liked it and how you can recreate it or improve it. You are in this together; discuss what worked and what didn't, but focus on what worked.

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About the Submitter

This piece was originally submitted by Virginia L. Walz, Life Coach and founder of Empowered For Success, who can be reached at vlwalz@empoweredforsuccess.com, or visited on the web. Virginia L. Walz wants you to know: I coach personal well-being, self-care, health and balance, and creating incredible relationships.

How to open a bra one hand

How to open a bra one hand.

Defeat the bra enemy in one easy motion. Always a nervous encounter for males around the globe, but with VideoJug's assistance you never need to worry again!

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Step 1:

You will need

• A willing partner
• Breasts that are encased in a bra
• Dextrous fingers
• Nerves of steel
• A spirit of adventure.

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Step 2:

Know your enemy

The bra is your enemy. It has got what you want.

To defeat this enemy you must do some intelligence gathering. Make sure your hands are warm, cold hands are not sexy. Put your hand under her top. If she is uncomfortable with this, then chillaxe at first base.

If you get a positive response, and she's up for it, get an answer to this key question: is it a back-fastening bra, or a front-fastening bra?

Why not just ask?

Here's why:
He says, "Um, excuse me, can you tell me if this is a front fastening or back fastening bra? And can you please assist me in removing it?"

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Step 3:

Back-fastenings

First see if the bra fastens at the back. Move your hand across her back, and locate her bra strap. Now feel for an 3-5 cm long section of thicker fabric in the centre of the bra strap, or perhaps a tiny gap where the fastenings meet.
Don't think, feel.... Bingo! It's a back fastener. Easy! Now you know what you are dealing with.

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Step 4:

Front-fastenings

It isn't a back fastener? We are probably dealing with a front fastener. These unclip between the cups at the front of the bra.

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Step 5:

Other types of bra?

If you can't find the fastening at front or back, consider the rare possibility that she is wearing an aerobic bra, or that she isn't wearing a bra at all. All right!

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Step 6:

The pinch and release

This will take practice, so it's a good idea to practice on a close friend before the date. Whether back or front fastening, most bras clip and unclip with tiny hooks. The one handed release technique is the same for both front and back fastenings. You need to gently clench the material around both sides of the fastening, and then squeeze them together so that the hooks release. Congratulations - you can now try to unhook a bra on a real woman.

How to use a Condom

How To Put On A Condom

A condom is the only form of protection which will both help stop the spread of STIs and prevent pregnancy. You should use a condom every time you have sex - this film will show you how to put on a condom.

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Step 1:

You will need

• A condom

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Step 2:

Open the packet

Begin by carefully opening the packet. Tearing the packet open with your teeth while growling like a tiger might seem tempting, but don't do it. You could damage the condom in the process.

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Step 3:

Position

If you have one, pull back your foreskin before putting the condom on. Unroll the condom slightly to find which is the right way round. Before applying, squeeze the tip of the condom so there's no air trapped in the end. Trapped air can cause the condom to split.

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Step 4:

Roll

Roll the condom all the way down to the base of the penis. If you've pulled your foreskin back, push it forward once the condom is on. This will let the foreskin move without breaking the condom. You're ready to go!

You may find it helpful - and not unpleasant - to add a drop of lubricant before play begins. This may help the condom stay in place and reduce the chance of it breaking. If you are using lubricant you should only used water-based lubricant especially designed for use during sex. Baby oil, Vaseline and skin lotions can damage the latex in the condom and cause it to split. If you must use oil-based lubricant, you can use condoms made of polyurethane, although these are more expensive.

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Step 5:

In use

Check occasionally to make sure the condom is still in place. If it slips off or splits during sex, you should withdraw immediately, wash yourself, and replace with a new condom.

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Step 6:

Doubling up

Some people are tempted to use two condoms at once, thinking that doubling up will double the protection. Don't do this. The two condoms will rub against one another, and the increased friction will make them more likely to split. Also, never use a male condom and a female condom at the same time, for the same reason.

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Step 7:

When you're done

Withdraw from your partner while the penis is still hard, holding the condom at the base of your penis so that the semen doesn't spill. Remove the condom and dispose of it by wrapping it in tissue and putting it in the rubbish. Never put condoms down the toilet. You need to use a new condom every time you have sex.

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